Thursday, 28 July 2016

Personal Failure? Never allow your condition to steal your dream, advises Dr. Wale Akinyemi

Personal failure threatened to put down Dr Wale Akinyemi and his wife. “Our children had to stay off school for a whole year because we could barely meet the basics,” he forlornly recounts, “When visitors knocked we’d tell our kids to go to the bedroom…“ He reveals: “No one called. I’d hide in the bedroom – reading book after book in quest of how to recover…” For this supposed personal failure, he took responsibility and apologized to Taiwo, his wife – for taking her “through hell.” Her reaction?

Wale and Taiwo gave their bare bones account to The Babylove Network. Written by Brenda Kilonzo-Wangwe.

‘Conformity needs no effort. It is the default position of the masses. It is the mother of mediocrity’, ‘Why do some people prefer to be gold fish in an aquarium when they were made to be great white sharks dominating the ocean?’, ‘No masterpiece was ever made by a lazy artist’, and ‘To venture into the deep seas you must lose sight of the shores’,” are lines synonymous with Dr Wale Akinyemi. He pulls no punches.

His energy is infectious. He oozes with conviction. He is the master of ‘It’s-never-that-serious’. He has perfected the art of retelling his pervious ordeals with wet humour. I would almost say I wish I had met him way earlier in my education…. Listening to him, I see all the many things I need to unlearn; to live my purpose with gusto. And to learn how to deal with personal failure...

The business mogul, laden with scientific solutions and all raring to go to attend to market complexities is a man keen on the softer things of life. He loves his children to a fault, narrates his wife, Taiwo. The father of three beams, “Twenty four years later I am more in love than I was when I got married.”

Parental Pressure On Children - The Energy Drink Story

“Mom, can you buy me an energy drink to take just before my swimming race?” That was my son the day before their much awaited school swimming gala. You see my son loves to swim and jumps at every opportunity to be in the swimming pool. His swimming has improved dramatically to the extent that he made it to the finals to represent blue house on race day. I was therefore naturally very curious, and wondered, about this request for an energy drink.
“What is an energy drink?” I asked him. Call this exerting on him some parental pressure - but I just had to be sure that I had fully understood his request. Sure, he responded: “Muuuuummmmmm…… you know those drinks that you drink so that they can give you energy - like Shark, Monster, Redbull and , Lucozade Boost!”. It was clear that he knew very well what he was talking about.
All his friends were doing it and...his swimming teacher knew about it
It was not just parental pressure on his competitiveness; it was also peer influence at play. When I asked him why he wanted to take the drink before the race, he informed me that all his friends were doing it and had indicated the specific variety of drink they would buy. I further asked him if this was allowed and if his swimming teacher knew about it, and he said yes, they had asked and they were told it was ok. That energy drinks are harmless. Did I mention that my son is in Standard 6?